Monday, January 9, 2017

The surprising science of happiness - Dan Glibert - TED talk

I've heard this talk before but never applied it to my own situation. It took the miserable experience with IF treatments and then acceptance of  life without kids to finally understand the wisdom of Adam Smith's words. (color emphasis is mine)

http://www.ted.com/talks/dan_gilbert_asks_why_are_we_happy/transcript?language=en

Adam Smith, and he said this. This is worth contemplating: "The great source of both the misery and disorders of human life seems to arise from overrating the difference between one permanent situation and another -- Some of these situations may, no doubt, deserve to be preferred to others, but none of them can deserve to be pursued with that passionate ardor which drives us to violate the rules either of prudence or of justice, or to corrupt the future tranquility of our minds, either by shame from the remembrance of our own folly, or by remorse for the horror of our own injustice." In other words: yes, some things are better than others.
19:54 We should have preferences that lead us into one future over another. But when those preferences drive us too hard and too fast because we have overrated the difference between these futures, we are at risk.
Happy New Year everyone!!

2 comments:

  1. Thank you for sharing.

    Happy New Year to you too!

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    1. Thank you! I always feel a little silly when I discover that my problems and hard earned solutions/conclusions are not anything new under the moon, and that some brilliant mind already thought about it in the past. I definitely feel now that the 'tranquility of my mind' was corrupted by futile pursuit of the dream that my body simply could not fulfill from the very beginning. I wish now I'd directed my energy and resources elsewhere!

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