Monday, January 9, 2017

The surprising science of happiness - Dan Glibert - TED talk

I've heard this talk before but never applied it to my own situation. It took the miserable experience with IF treatments and then acceptance of  life without kids to finally understand the wisdom of Adam Smith's words. (color emphasis is mine)

http://www.ted.com/talks/dan_gilbert_asks_why_are_we_happy/transcript?language=en

Adam Smith, and he said this. This is worth contemplating: "The great source of both the misery and disorders of human life seems to arise from overrating the difference between one permanent situation and another -- Some of these situations may, no doubt, deserve to be preferred to others, but none of them can deserve to be pursued with that passionate ardor which drives us to violate the rules either of prudence or of justice, or to corrupt the future tranquility of our minds, either by shame from the remembrance of our own folly, or by remorse for the horror of our own injustice." In other words: yes, some things are better than others.
19:54 We should have preferences that lead us into one future over another. But when those preferences drive us too hard and too fast because we have overrated the difference between these futures, we are at risk.
Happy New Year everyone!!

Thursday, July 21, 2016

New kitty!

Our new kitty brought a lot of joy and fun into our lives :) He looks like a little alien and has a personality bigger that I have ever seen in a cat!

A quick snapshot from today's morning
 

 

Wednesday, July 20, 2016

Over a year!

OMG, it's been over a year since I've posted on my blog! Not much happened but on the other hand there were some changes. We moved from an apartment to a house (good), a lot of overtime (bad), a new kitty (good!), new friends (even better!), new jeans, high heels and a new purse (excellent LOL) :) Thinking about writing a book (hmm, hard to qualify this :) )

Time heals, life goes on and offers more challenges to overcome but also joy. I am happy I finally start noticing those crumbles of joy. I realize they were always around but, sadly, out of my reach for quite some time.

I am so thrilled to be back to read my favorite blogs, and I'm excited to see new names I am going to follow. Love the community even though I've been away for a while, and happy to be back.

xoxo

Wednesday, July 8, 2015

Silent Sorority

I'm sure you all know the book I have finally read, and how good it is. It took me no more no less over a year to finish it! Well, I bought the book probably two years ago, then started it a year ago, and last weekend I opened it and read from the beginning to the end!

The story and the way it was written truly resonated with me. I had no idea that Pamela went through so many treatments and that she paid for everything out of pocket to finance her emotional suffering and body abuse which also resulted in neglecting the other sides of her life (like her house and savings). This sounds so familiar and until now I thought I was the only one in the world who did something so stupid in retrospect!

So many times through the book I wished I were there to give the author/main character a hug and be there to support her through the dark times. I also really like her husband and his way of keeping her grounded, pretty much like my own husband who is my rock.

My takeaway from the book: we are normal and our lives are normal and always were, we just lost our focus due to the overwhelming desire to procreate (which is also normal by the way). Now it's time to process our grief and move on.




Tuesday, February 3, 2015

A Five Star Life

I've just finished a movie on Netflix, A Five Star Life. Here is the link to a review http://www.rogerebert.com/reviews/a-five-star-life-2014 . I loved it. It's truly a very elegant and very non-Hollywoodish movie about a woman in her 40s who doesn't have a husband nor kids and who examines her life and her relationships and her future. It's in Italian with English subtitles so listening to a pretty language is a bonus, too :)



Saturday, January 31, 2015

Image on my desktop

It's probably possible to get a pretty good idea about a person's personality and current state of mind by looking at the history of wallpaper images he or she has had on their desktop.  My choice of wallpaper definitely depends on how I feel and right now I feel like looking at a bigger picture.

Here's what I have on my monitors right now:
Andromeda Galaxy in HD.

 The NASA/ESA Hubble Space Telescope has captured the sharpest and biggest image ever taken of the Andromeda galaxy — otherwise known as Messier 31. The enormous image is the biggest Hubble image ever released and shows over 100 million stars and thousands of star clusters embedded in a section of the galaxy’s pancake-shaped disc stretching across over 40 000 light-years.
Here's http://www.spacetelescope.org/news/heic1502/

Trying to grasp the enormity of space, the scales we have to use when talking about galaxies and distances and time makes everything in my life seem so trivial and unimportant... I still have so much desire to learn what is out there, I'm still very curious just like I was when I've read my very first sci-fi novel (It was Robert Heinlein's Orphans of the Sky :) ). It would be nice to have children so my bloodline would continue and I would see the stars one day through the eyes of my descendents but it's not going to happen. Oh well...

Having children is not always that great?

Yesterday my husband told me about a program he listened to while driving to work the other day. The program was about the problem of children cutting themselves, the causes and the impact of this on the children themselves and their families. My husband told me that after listening to the program he was almost glad we don't have children as they could only bring the heartbreak and not joy as we always imagined. I actually agreed; sometimes having children is not all that great (I know if some parents  stumble upon this post they would exclaim 'And what can you possibly know?' but this is still my opinion).